Monday, February 21, 2011

Dressing like a real girl

It's amazing how often Shauna and I seem to be on the same wavelength. I was just logging in to write a post on self-image, and to warm up I read a few of my RSS feed items, including this great article about not feeling worthy of taking time on yourself. I have a tendency to fall into the same kind of "Jeans and Top" rut, with maybe a little tinted moisturizer and some lip gloss (or more often, Cherry Chapstick).  My husband doesn't really care what I'm wearing. He has never been much of a complimenter. If I ask if I look good, he always says yes, but I feel silly asking. Since he doesn't care, and usually dresses pretty casually himself when he's not at work, I feel silly taking time to do my hair and makeup or put on a nice outfit when we're going out.

I dress okay for work, but most of my clothes are basics.  If this explains anything, a co-worker saw me reading a magazine and said, "Oh! I thought you didn't care about fashion!"  Yay me.  I must be coming across as a little frumpy. I get regular pedicures and spend a fortune on keeping my hair its "natural" brown, but I guess I still haven't been giving enough thought to my appearance. I think I felt, like Shauna, that if I put too much thought into it, someone would ask, "Who do you think you are?"

All dolled up for the 80s prom
It became really clear what kind of a weird place I was living in when I had a chance to go to a silly "80s prom" event at a local Moose lodge. This was not a big-deal kind of event -- it was more of a costume party. Still, I LOVED the clothes and hairstyles in 80s. I was a teenager then, so of course I spent time on things like hair, makeup, and clothes, even though I liked to think of myself as too smart for all of that. Just thinking about dressing appropriately for that time got me all worked up.  I spent almost an entire day getting the right dress (thrift store), makeup (Ulta), and undergarments (I needed a strapless bra and did not have one in my newly-discovered size. I was happy to find that Dillard's carries my size and I don't have to special order from {intimacy}) for the event.  I must have spent an hour and a half getting my hair and makeup just right. I couldn't really do the full-on 80s hair, my cut is not right for that.  But I did curl it and wore about twice as much makeup as usual. And I really, really liked the way I looked for once.

Jeans and a Top might be OK for a day like today, when I am snowed in with not much to do, but I need to make a little more of an effort on regular days, not to get a reaction from anyone else but just to feel that confidence.  Even if no one else cares how I look, I do. Maybe if I start acting like a Real Girl, I will start feeling like one.


  1. Fantastic post Jen! I saw this pic on FB the other day and thought how gorgeous you looked! And I love your hair too!

    I think you are onto something with your frumpy wife comment on your blog. Both Dr G and I are guilty of schlubbing around in sweatpants and hoodies! I remember when we started dating I was about the same size I am now (18/20 UK) and I was buying fancy underwear and I vowed to myself "I am NEVER going to let myself go and take him for granted." Whoops! ;)

  2. I actually think taking care of yourself and spending time looking fashionable is really important to maintenance and weight loss. It's part of self-love. I like What Not To Wear (even though it is a bit repetitive).

  3. I love that pic of you!

    I am very frumpy with what I wear... but I kind of feel like a lost cause!


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