Saturday, April 10, 2010

Why do we blog?

I listened to "Two Fit Chicks: Episode 11" yesterday, their "Boys" episode. What I liked about this episode is that they did not turn it into a "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" analysis that made all men the same and all women the same. There was maybe a little of that, but mostly the lovely hosts and their guests all agreed that if there is a difference, it's because of social taboos against men expressing their feelings, not because of some essential difference between men and women. It turns out that a lot of us don't feel like the stereotypes accurately describe us, and maybe that means that the stereotypes are bankrupt in the first place.

That said, I don't read a whole lot of men-authored blogs. I think that mostly has to do with how I find new blogs -- usually through BlogHer, through people commenting on my posts (and I don't seem to have a lot of guys reading here), and through blog rolls of other bloggers I read.

There is one more reason: I tend to try out a new blog by adding it to my RSS feed, reading it for a few weeks, and dropping it if it doesn't interest me. If most men who blog really do tend to make their blogs less personal and more cut-and-dried, that might be one reason I don't have many of them on my blog roll. If a blog is just giving me information I could find elsewhere on nutrition and exercise, I find that kind of dull. I have dropped blogs written by both men and women that just summarized a bunch of articles and didn't really feel like they wanted to have a dialogue with their readers or with other bloggers. I like to think of all of this blogging as one big conversation.

By the way, I am fully aware that I might not live up to my own blog-reading standards. All I can say is that I try! When I started blogging, I started with toledolefty, a political blog. I haven't posted anything in a long time because I didn't have many readers and I felt like I was running out of things to say when I seemed to be shouting out into a void. When I started this blog, I didn't expect many people to read it -- who would care about my personal ups and downs? I was writing it as an outlet for my frustrated feelings and other weight-related issues that I didn't feel comfortable discussing with people in the non-virtual world. But now I blog because of the conversation I get to have with other people going through similar experiences.

I am definitely interested in broadening that conversation, so I am going to try out some of the "Boys" that Shauna and Carla linked to for us. I'd love to hear about any other great blogs that I might be missing.

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