Sunday, July 05, 2009

I remembered what I really wanted to write about

Several times lately, I have found myself in a situation where someone feels compelled to give me advice on how I should be exercising (so far, no one has started in on diet).

It's frustrating, because I feel like I have a pretty good handle on the exercise thing. I know what to do to train for my races and I feel happy with the way I'm able to perform on race day. I feel like I have the fitness thing pretty well figured out. It's the diet that isn't fully in line yet.

It's also discouraging because I know the reason I'm getting this unsolicited advice is because I'm still carrying weight I should have lost by now. Add to the list of reasons I want to lose weight: "So that my fitness level will be accurately reflected in the way I look."

It's weird because some people are complimenting me on how I look and others seem to think that I wouldn't be the size I am if I knew about exercise. I wouldn't take this personally if I wasn't also feeling a little bit frustrated already on the weight front. My weight is still on an upswing after the triathlon. I have good reason to expect a drop next week, because like one reader noted, I seem to be on a pretty reliable four-week cycle of gaining and losing. But overall, the trend is maintenance, and I'm not particularly happy about it.

Here's hoping that the half-marathon training will help a bit.


  1. Re: "I know the reason I'm getting this unsolicited advice is because I'm still carrying weight I should have lost by now."

    I think some folks are just rude and like to stick their nose in where it doesn't belong. Maybe you could stare haughtily at them and say coolly: "My weight is part of a carefully calibrated bulking phase before I begin my cutting phase." :)

  2. Just remember that people have good intentions.

    I actually feel this way oftent too, but I try not to let it bleed on to the people giving me advice because between the 3989485 people telling me to do what I already do, there are 1 or 2 who give me a really great tip.

    People need/want to feel like they can help.

    But, if they're being rude... just roundhouse kick them in the face.

  3. I agree with maspikteruzim, people need to mind their own business. There's too much emphasis on being "thin" and not enough on health. I bet you could out run, swim, and bike anyone that says that to you!
    I know you want to lose weight, but you are FIT and HEALTHY! That means so much more than being a size whatever.
    I've been reading your blog for several months now and I'm curious on why you don't weight train? My fitness level and weight loss went way up when I started lifting weights. I've maintained a 50 lb. loss for 8 years now and I know that weights and the muscle mass I've built is a big factor. I do a weight exercise for every muscle group twice a week. I hit a big platou in my weight loss before I started lifting weights and that jump started it right up!
    I love your blog! You are a big inspiration to me (I really want to be a runner and do triathlons!) Keep up the good work!

  4. Wendy, that's a good question about the weight training. I know it helps, but I just don't love doing it. I have been telling myself that Pilates Reformer and yoga are just as effective for strength but I'm not sure I believe myself. I did buy Jillian Michaels' "Hot Bod in a Box" and am trying to figure out where to incorporate weights into my routine.

    Nic, you're right, people do have good intentions. That's why I find it disheartening rather than upsetting -- they honestly think I'm just not working out much because they don't see a hardbody standing in front of them, I guess.

  5. I got tired of weight training taking up so much time - I switched to kettlebells, and I love them! (Not trying to convert you - that's just my experience.)Having said that, I think you can get awfully strong doing yoga.

    I can't remember where I read the statement "exercise determines body composition, food determines body size." I think that's pretty true. But it is frustrating to not look as fit as I know I am.

  6. I hate it when ANYONE tells me what to do about ANYTHING, but especially exercise! They need to back off. You know what you are doing.


"Count your calories, work out when you can, and try to be good to yourself. All the rest is bulls**t." -- Jillian Michaels at BlogHer '07