Monday, April 21, 2014

Fears about losing weight

As much as I loved The Diet Fix, I'm finding it hard to operationalize the ideas in it into a weight-loss diet. I think the concepts in it are great, and I am still using some of them, but I don't find it easy to translate the ideas into a weight-loss plan.

I picked up The Beck Diet again -- I haven't touched it for a long time after the tone started to annoy me. Though I had my quibbles with it, though, at least it had a plan and some tools that I found helpful.  I'm going to try to take the book a little less personally and see what I can use from it.

Today I wrote my "Advantages to Losing Weight" card (Day 1) and realized that I needed to write down some other thoughts that were creeping in -- "Fears about Losing Weight." Many of the fears seemed silly when written down, but they were there nonetheless. Things like, "What if my relationships don't work if I'm not overweight?" "What if this just puts more pressure on me?" and "What if I still don't like my body?"

The assumption is that losing weight is an unmixed positive, but I am guessing that a lot of people who struggle with weight loss may have fears, articulated or not, about how losing the weight (or at least making weight loss a priority) might negatively impact their lives. That might be one reason that it's so hard to do.

I figured that if I wrote them out and compared them to my "Advantages" card, they would look less daunting, and they did.

I also did Day 2's activity, picking a diet and a backup diet. I am going to continue to work with calorie counting, but if I'm still feeling lost after a few weeks, I can always return to Weight Watchers. They taught me a lot already, and I am sure there is more to learn there.  I had some not-so-great experiences with the Core Plan but I think the Simply Filling Technique sounds a little saner and easier to stick to.

I still have some tricks up my sleeve to try to make calorie counting work better, so I'm going to try those first before giving up on doing this my way.

Summer's coming, though, and I don't want to spend another one feeling regret.


6 comments:

  1. I can't remember, have you worked with a therapist?

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    1. I did, quite a while ago. She was very helpful at the time, but said at some point that she thought I didn't need to see her anymore, and I agreed.

      I mention these fears not because I think they are weird or unusual, but because I think that a lot of other people also have them, whether or not they are acknowledged.

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  2. I wasn't actually mentioning therapist because of fears, I was mentioning because you were talking about still being sort of in the same place and wanting to move forward.

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  3. I found the Beck Diet book to be so "diet" focused (and therefore triggering of the "old yo-yo days", that it was difficult for me to embrace. Maybe I'll try again from a different perspective.

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  4. sorry, I posted with the wrong blog....I'm Linda from HSM, www.FightTheDecline.wordpress.com :)

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  5. Doear Jen, I'm catching up on about 1 million posts today:-) commenting is awkward but know that I'm reading and nodding along as always! And I do feel you on the fears issue.

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