Thursday, December 01, 2011

NaBloPoMo Round 2, Day 1: Motivating my Way to a Better New Year

I am continuing daily blog posting through December. This may be more of a challenge because of the holidays.  I thought I'd start back up the Motivation Makeover for the new month. It would be nice to take a few less bad habits (and pounds) into the new year. Today I'm talking about "Away From" Motivation,which Rene√© Stephens also calls "pain-based motivation."
  1. What unwanted behaviors do you have? I often eat out of habit or out of feelings instead of hunger. I have trouble controlling the amount I eat of certain foods.  I wouldn't say that I binge, but I sometimes eat to the point of being uncomfortably full.
  2. What symptoms do you have? I don't like the way my body looks. I feel like I need to cover certain flaws and problem areas.  I sometimes feel defensive and think other people are judging me because of my extra weight.
  3. What are the consequences of those behaviors and symptoms? I don't have confidence in my relationships. I feel like my clothing choices are limited because of my need to cover flaws. I have a closet and drawers full of clothes in different sizes, but I keep wearing the same things over and over.  I feel scared that I might never feel young and pretty again.
  4. What other people are affected by your problem? How are they affected? I don't think my friends and spouse can be honest about what they think about the way I look. I think sometimes it's harder for my husband to work toward his own weight and fitness goals because I haven't made much progress on mine.

2 comments:

  1. Wonderful analysis. But perhaps the lack of clothing choices has nothing to do with your weight. In the last three years I was doing my "programm wardrobe" to get me wearing most of my clothes. Before that I just wore my favorites and the other clothes were sitting there unused. And I am just slightly overweight (ca. 5 kg)!
    During my journey I learned that everybody at any weight has clothes and styles that just don't look good at this person. And just to buy clothes that fit perfectly (or can get altered easily to), have the right colour, are combinable, fit my actual style and make my heart sing. But it was a long process, perhaps because "clothing" and "looking good" is such an important thing for us women.
    Unfortunately the book that provided the most useful framework ist just available in German ...
    So: Don't give up with feeling better clothed at your current weight! And if you want I can send you an hopefully understandable translation of the most important points of the framework that helped me change my wardrobe.

    Ilonka

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  2. oh.
    I love this exercise.
    *runs off to grab her journal & pen*

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