Sunday, December 05, 2010

December 5: Let Go


 Today's prompt from Reverb10:
What (or whom) did you let go of this year? Why?
(Author: Alice Bradley)

I let go of trying to explain why I wanted to achieve my goals. There are some people who, when I mentioned something I wanted to do or something I wanted to accomplish, would immediately respond with, "Oh, I could never do that" or something similar.  I realized that rather than an invitation to talk more about my goal or dream, this response was an invitation to turn the conversation back to the other person again.  Or worse yet, this person had invented an imaginary competition that I didn't know we were in, and any sign that I wanted that this person didn't was a sign that I thought I was better than him/her. I've been there.  When I feel myself wanting to respond that way, I know it's because I'm feeling insecure.  But instead of trying to prop that person's self-esteem up (too exhausting and unproductive), I've found that it's better to just let the topic drop.  I tend not to spend too much time with people who aren't on my side anymore.

I like hearing about other people's goals and dreams. There's nothing more fun than seeing someone light up talking about something they are really excited about. I've tried living without dreams, just surviving day-to-day, and it's a lousy way to live.

2 comments:

  1. LOVE this answer. What is wrong with saying, "good for you, good luck with that!". Why turn it back on themselves. Arrrgh!

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  2. This is a great perspective for me to hear right now. I am too familiar with both sides of what you are describing. I have been the insecure one, thinking that I was "helping" someone by comparing myself to the situation. But now that I am reaching out to people and expecting a positive and supportive reaction, I find myself disappointed with how many people seem to "not care"... So I will now be more conscientious about my responses to people AND about who I turn to for support!

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