In the comments of my "don't be this person" and "what to say" posts, I got a lot of talk about toxic people. I understand the idea, and there are some people that I do my best to avoid -- or wish I could, in the case of someone it's not that easy to cut loose. But mostly, I think inappropriate responses to other people's news is usually well-intentioned. Witness the responses to PastaQueen's unfortunate headache problems -- people want to help her with their 9,000 suggestions, but it becomes a little overwhelming. Plus, there is probably the suspicion that the person who "wins" and figures it out gets to be Jennette's BFF. I think that's the case for most of my, er, "well-wishers" too -- they want to make me happy, even against my will. I was just a little bitter about it because I reserve the right to make my own decisions, no matter how wrong they may seem.
I think there is a reason that recovery programs of various stripes have "no advice" rules. Giving advice tends to turn the attention off the person with the problem and onto you and how much you know. It also suggests that if the person doesn't try what you are advising that further problems are due to their lack of listening to you. I say this as someone who loves to give advice, because, really, I am so smart. I'm sure I've been the annoying person who didn't respond appropriately on many occasions.
Anyway, no new news to report. Everything is just sort of stuck, except that my nephew continues to do well and get stronger.