Monday, November 27, 2006

unrequited love

I watched "Breakfast at Tiffany's" last night on Oxygen. It seems impossible that someone could be as beautiful and graceful as Audrey Hepburn. I think she might have been the most beautiful woman who ever lived. None of the current flavor-of-the-day starlets even hold a candle. They might get as thin as her, but they never figured out how to emulate her style and grace.

Still, the beautiful, lithe body Audrey Hepburn had would be an impossibility for me, even if I didn't have the occasional tragic love affair with snack food. I have always desperately wanted to have this kind of look -- fragile, delicate, elegant -- but my body isn't, even at its bones, like that at all. I have had an unrequited love affair with that coltish, slender body type for most of my life. I think it's time to stop carrying a torch for it, as I (quickly) approach my 36th birthday, and accept that though it might be possible for me to improve on the body I have, I can't change from a Clydesdale to a Thoroughbred.

I keep telling myself this, but a part of me still holds out with, "Maybe if I just worked a little harder," despite the fact that I've never actually been as thin as Marilyn, let alone Audrey. By the way, despite all the propaganda that "Marilyn Monroe wore a size 16," if you actually look at pictures of her, she was pretty thin when she was younger and just made the most of the cleavage she had. As she got older, she put on a little weight, like most of us do.

Maybe I'll just try to be the best possible version of myself. How's that for a revolutionary idea?


  1. Do the best you can - don't try to be something you aren't. When you're happy and feel good, you know you've succeeded!

    BTW, you're the second blogger that mentioned watching Breakfast at Tiffany's on Oxygen ... I was stuck watching the Cartoon Network with my kids :)

    Here by way of Fat Fighters Fitroll!

  2. You do not have too look like another exhibit the kind of beauty you are talking about but if comes from the inside. I have seen small and plus size actress have that inner beauty that just bubbles outward.
    Be strong and beautiful, be curvy and beautiful. Be you.

  3. I think that sizes were dramatically different then (Marilyn). if you look at other pictures (first ladies for example) - they were all shapes and size (just like now). And clothes were FITTED then - Really tight girdles that were practically corsets were very common then too. That is probably why they all had such good posture too.

    We (as a modern culture) are not used to non-stretchy clothes that are REALLY fitted.

    I think that I read a bio of Audrey long ago and she was near starvation in Europe during WWII for a LONG time and that she didn't only look fragile - her health was actually fragile after that - I think that her starvation/poverty/good will work later in her life was because of this - if you are looking for something to read - read about her - your image of her body might be quite different - mine was.

    My mother has this type of body (slender, fragile) build now - from major enlarged heart.

    so, when I see someone on the street that I have THOSE WISHING I WERE THEM thoughts - I try to remember that they might have something going ON that causes them to be built that way, that I wouldn't want to wish for at all.

  4. Vickie's right about Audrey's experiences in WWII. I remember reading this as a kid; she lived on potatoes and in a cellar and weighed something like 80 pounds.

    I'd like my men to look like Cary Grant in "The Philadelphia Story" but has that happened?

    There's all kinds of beauty and there are all kinds of fads. And, I don't see you as a Clydesdale at all. And I always think of them as beautiful horses with their fringe-y tails and so strong. There's not much difference between them and the Lipanzer horses except coloring.

  5. I mentioned before that I think you look like a young Isabella Rossalinni (spelling is wrong). She was always someone whom I thought was beautiful. I even cut my hair likes hers and dyed it darker, but, alas, I just didn't have her eyes, nose, mouth, smile , etc. . .

    As long as people do not have plastic surgery or unrealistic goals to try to look like someone, I do not see anything wrong with 'wishing' we resembled a certain someone we admire.


"Count your calories, work out when you can, and try to be good to yourself. All the rest is bulls**t." -- Jillian Michaels at BlogHer '07